Learning Acceptance

Learning Acceptance

This is okay, but what if this changed for the better? I will love myself once I change this aspect. Everything will be good once…

These are all thoughts that run through our heads. In the fix-it quick and make-it-better kind of society we live in, it is hard to appreciate or accept things for the way they are.  We are nit-picky perfectors on a mission to eradicate flaws for a pristine image.

But what for?

It’s hard to learn to love things the way they are because we are bombarded with How-tos and this-could-be-yous so we can live in an image instead of the moment. How can we learn to accept the way things are and to be okay with it?

I recently adopted a senior cat and he has a … personality. My new baby loves to eat and does whatever it takes to lick a scrap of food: climbing in trash cans, hopping on counters to rifle through cabinets, swimming in the sink before the last remnants of dinner slide down the drain. Oh, and he tries to steal sandwiches as you’re making them and smacks your face until you give him some attention. These are some of his favorite daily pursuits.

But have you seen him?!orange tabby cat

This old boy has been through quite a bit and after 14 years, he isn’t going to change his ways. As frustrating as he may be at times, he has brought a different light to my life. I hope to have the same determination and tenacity in my old age as he does. I hope I can learn to love and show my affections as he does. I hope I can learn to speak my truths as he screams his every time his tummy rumbles.

What he has taught me is that there may be some things we would like to change in our lives or even in other people, but there is a beauty in how things are playing out as they are. I know my life would be a little easier if I didn’t have to shake him out of my bag every morning before he can gobble down a pack of crackers. And I know I would sleep easier without him pawing at me at three in the morning so I can scooch over and let him snuggle on the outside. But he helps me appreciate some smaller things in life – like zippered pouches and cabinet locks. He helps me appreciate the food I am able to eat. I find comfort in knowing that our scenery might change, but we can make the most of it, much as he did when we accepted him into our home.

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I may be overthinking it. But I love my trash-digging, cheese-puff loving fiend. And he loves our messy sink and snack-sharing time.

Sometimes someone can be a lot to handle or a situation can seem much worse than it is. I could not have a cat that buried his face in my neck purring or that lays on me and strokes my face while staring deeply into my eyes. I could also have a trash bag that doesn’t have holes in it.

But really, what would you rather have?

It is important to think about the positives in your life and to remind yourself as to why the world is unfolding the way it is. Something always leads to something, so find joy in the journey. You can sit there hoping for the universe to drop a piece of cheese, or you can accept that sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands and steal the cheese from the source – wise words from Pumpy.

At first, I tried to reprimand my kitty by spraying him with water, by tossing him off the counters, and even by trying to ignore him. But his determination just grew. Those difficulties just made the victory of getting that butter wrapping out of the trash all the more sweet. I was trying to change him when he didn’t need to change. Just to be loved and tossed some scraps of food once in a while. Okay, maybe every time I eat, but we’re working on his manners!

We can learn from the issues that bother us, but we also don’t have to fix everything. It might seem like it to you, but to others, it’s not broken. Pumpkin is a wily cat who only has a few years left. So I accepted this and I am going to let him live his best life. Even if that means he’ll sit on the dishwasher and lick the dishes as I put them in or that I can’t use the bathroom by myself ever again.

Some things are worth loving, even if we can’t change them.

 

 

 

Disclaimer: this does not apply to all situations.

2019: Balance

The theme last year was “movement,” and I think I made some pretty big moves. This year, I want to focus on balance. I let work eat my life (again), and I don’t make time for myself. I want to find a balance between mind, body, environment. Balance between my work, personal, and creative life.

In order to do this, I need to actually follow the plans I make. And I need to sort out my priorities: making time for the things and people I love while also staying true to responsibilities.

2019 is the year of feeling relaxed. No more feeling like I have to accomplish a thousand tasks before the sun sets. No more feeling like I am behind in a race I didn’t even sign up for. I want to feel satisfied, content. Less sad and angry.

Let in the love, the light, the opportunities, the balance. I am closing my door to negativity and hate towards myself, over trivial concerns or matters.

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2018: Moving On with a Quick Look Back

2018: Moving On with a Quick Look Back

I was too busy making plans and not following through on my personal goals, but the theme of the year was movement and there was quite a bit of that.

Some may be bigger changes than I am making them seem, but by now, at the end of the year, everything is old news and I can see the future already. But let’s take it back to see how 2018 moved me.

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Seven Mood Lifters

 

I don’t know about everyone else, but I get emotionally drained pretty quickly. If I have to spend the day talking with people, I get home and I am in a ~mood~. Or if I work too hard for too long ~mood~. So how do we lift this ~mood~?

 

It is different for everyone when it comes to what causes a mood or what will lift it. But I have seven items that always seem to help me get to a better place quicker.

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