Self-care or Self-sabotage?

I was recently conned into a magazine subscription when purchasing books at a bookstore, and I had chosen a women’s health magazine to go with my traditional fashion and interior design picks because I am getting older and want to make some better choices.

Every page was an ad for a new juice cleanse, skinny teas, and let’s face it: scams. 

I immediately cancelled the subscription. 

I am lucky enough to have never fallen into a diet-trap because I have always been small and I never had a desire to lose weight. I have tried to gain weight, but stopped doing that when I felt nothing but bloated and disgusting. However, when I look for information on making healthier choices, I am bombarded with misinformation about the horrors of calories and what snacks to make on “cheat days” so you aren’t actually being “bad.”

I read a New York Times article written by Jessica Knoll describing her experiences with the “wellness” industry that pointed to a lot of the discomfort I was feeling. She says wellness culture is “a dangerous con that seduces smart women with pseudo-scientific claims of increasing energy, reducing inflammation, lowering the risk of cancer and healing skin, gut and fertility problems.”

And many magazines and other outlets targeted at women mirror the same pseudo-claims. Knolls continues, “No one is telling men that they need to love their bodies to live full and meaningful lives. We don’t need to love our bodies to respect them.”

It is so hard to find any information that is not about losing weight. That is actually about making healthy choices without disintegrating our mental health. Women’s relationship with food is not portrayed like it is for men in the media. The woman gets the salad; the man gets the steak. I think perhaps, not. Not anymore.

I am not comfortable with my body either. But when I want to find a “healthy” recipe, all I see on Pinterest and other websites are recipes that are less than 100 calories with none of the fun stuff. Or even healthy for that matter.

There is a reason these diets leave you feeling hungry and unsatisfied, but many people think that is how you are supposed to feel. And anybody who claims drinking nothing but liquids all day is safe and healthy is out of their minds. 

So ladies, men, and other people who feel targeted by the Beautiful People Industry, please look for viable sources for what you are doing. You know damn well the celebrities endorsing those drinks do not actually drink them. And they have dieticians and physical trainers dictating their every move in order to keep them “thin and beautiful.”

You don’t have to be thin to be beautiful. 100 calorie snacks are awful. Please just eat a real cookie. See a real doctor and don’t listen to the ones on TV. 

And “wellness” industry, I know making women feel ugly so they will buy your products has been your intention from the start, but honestly I’m sick of your shit. How dare you. How dare you not feel remorseful for the mental illnesses you created. How dare continue to sell harmful lies to people. 

I will no longer try disgusting, processed, chalky drinks claiming to be an addition to meals either. Smart, educated women and others will not take it anymore. We don’t care about your definition of beautiful. The universe aligned cells to create me the way I am for a reason, and I respect that. The universe is beautiful, and so I am, and so are all of you.

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